Dean Yoder:  

CLASS OF 1980
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Leigh High SchoolClass of 1980
San jose, CA

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it has been one hell of an interesting life. Here is as condensed a version as I can muster. As some of you may already know,I was not from California. I came from Hawaii, then my family moved to Michigan where I was raised in the Mennonite church until my parents divorced at age 11. We then moved to Miami, Florida where we lived until I was 13 years old. We then moved to Los Gatos where I attened Leigh High age 14 as a freshman. My sister Tammy was at Union. We lived in Los Gatos for only one year at 202 Blossom Villa Way just at the foot of Blossom Hill. We then moved back to Florida. To be exact it was Tallahassee in Northern Florida. Home of collages, rednecks and the KKK. My mother studied at Florida A&M for a year. I attended my sophomore year at Leon High School in Tallahassee. That was an amazing school. They were first in the state in English, Math, Science, Music. These people to education very seriously to say the least. After that year, we moved back to California where I re-enrolled at at Leigh High School. If you want all the reasons for this tamutuous geographic constant relocation, I will tell you privately. It is quite a story in it self. I came out to my folks as gay at this time and I was quickly asked to leave my family's home. I was 16. I found myself in Cupertino and commuted to Leigh daily as well as held down a full time job as an Orderly at a nursing home to pay rent and eat. I told no one of my struggles and quietly continued to attend Leigh High. While going to school as a junior, I was studying to become a Licensed Psychiatric Technician candidate. My Senior year, as many of you know, I took Mike McNiel to my senior prom. Upon graduation from Leigh, I enrolled full time to earn my stateboard Licensed Psch Technician degree. I graduated and passed my state boards two years later. Meanwhile, I worked part time in both San Jose and San Francisco as a pianist ind cabaret singer to make ends meet while finishing my collage studies. Mike and I (my prom date) bought a little bungalow house in Downtown San Jose on Third Street when I was 18. We married in a non binding ceremony and lived together for a total of 8 years. We did finally go our separate ways. Mike later died of AIDS. It was a real low in my life. I wanted to capture my lost youth as I was made to be so responsible so young. I packed my rucksack, bought a series of Lonely Plant Guide books and plotted a three year trip around the world. I traveled on foot, boat, truck, cargo plane, bus, horse, donkey and tuc tuc. Two years traveling lead me from Mexico scouring all of Central America, including its wars and conflicts in Nicaragua, and El Salvador. I studied Spanish at a famous language school in Antigua Guatamala. Thanks to Señora Medlock I was an "A"student. I then tracked through the Darian Gap, and into Colombia. I boated down the Amazon, stayed with indiginous Indians for quite a few months and then traveled to the Galapagos where I studied evolution and biology at the Darwin station. I then tracked through Chilie,Bolivia,Agentina arriving in the most southern part of my trip Tierra Del Fuego. I then turned north and went back to Brazil for several months. I had been gone just about two years at this point and I was travel weary. I returned to the states where I went to sell 25 Cuzquena painting I had purchased in Cuzco, Peru. I Came to New York City to sell my paintings in the, then hot art market through a New York auction house that will remain nameless. The auction house declared bankruptcy the...Expand for more
day after the auction. I spent the next two years standing in line with many other creditors trying to get my money to no avail. All was not waisted. I got a job working for now world famous fashion icon, Iris Apfel who was then the president and CEO of her own textile empire. She was not at all famous back in those days and I have more stories about these people than a fortune teller in a Chinese mechanical box. I'll save those juicy bits for later. I stared to learn the ins and outs the the design business with the Apfelds I went on buying trips to France, Italy and England. I would later go on to become a senior designer at Stickley Furniture Company on 5th Avenue for many years . While at Stickley, I took a break and spent several months traveling thought Africa, Europe and India. I started my own company importing furniture, textiles and decorative arts from France, England and India. I opened two stores and started my own retail and design company that has now been in existance for more than 20 years. I never stopped fighting for justice over the years. I was a member of Queer Nation and Act- UP New York. I participated in civil disobedience to help friends and loved ones get access to medical treatment and funding while they were living with Aids and HIV. I got myself arrested to protest the treatment of people silently dying in our midst. I could never watch and be silent. That is just the way I am wired. I am a bit of a loud mouth I guess. While at Stickley,I met my now husband Jonathan Grimm, a tall, handsome, innocent, sweet sole who has complimented me in more ways than I can name. I married him four years ago after we had already been together 16 years. He says " it's like driving a car with 100k mile on it and going back to the dealer and saying I'll buy it." We are together over twenty years now and I mean it, I have no idea what I would do without him. He is my love and my life. We own a beautiful home with two rescue dogs named Chesea and Georgie. We keep chickens and tend our gardens that have been on the National Garden Conservancy since last year. We belong to the Locust Valley Garden Club and I have served as the vice president of the Jaguar Drivers Club of Long Island. We own a 1954 Jaguar XK 120 that I inherited from my Fathers estate after he and my uncle were killed in a plane crash in 2001. We drive that car only while shadowed by a van with a full set of tools, as it will leave you for dead at a moments notice, The English design is all style with very little reliability I am also Vice President of PFLAG Long Island ( Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) where I help facilite healing for parents who have LGBT children. I am an out proud free thinker, atheist and humanist who wants the world to be a better place with less suffering and more dignity for all people. We have so much to live for. I have three beautiful bi-racial nieces Anjiel, Asia, and Ashante who lost their mother, my sister, to cancer a few years ago. I try to be the best uncle I can to them as they have so little family left. I simple love them to bits. Is this the life I thought I would have? Far from it. I have a theist friend that says, " We make plans, God laughs. " that is one useful line from religion. Maybe the only one the way I see things. On another occasion I was once told."live my life like a car whose transmission was stuck in race and when I cross the finish line, the wheels should fall off. " Well, I think I know a little bit about what they were talking about. What a life.
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