Larry Collins:  

My wife and i met in summer of 1996, I was working at Walla Walla Union Bulletin Newspaper as a inserter and she was working a a deliver of the newspaper. We started talking over the phone and decided to start dating. My wife and i was married 6 months later. During courtship time we had a few problems in the relationship and i loved her so much i wanted to make things work. After we finally married she said she wanted a annulment. I have always gave the option to try to make the marriage work. When i met Mary's family i felt that i probably made a bad choice in marrying her but i stuck in there i tried not to Divorce. The first time she abused me was when she bit my ear after we had sex and i felt that she was mad and i never saw her anger until that first time. After that i learned that she had been beaten heavily by her parents with objects. Mary also told me her Mother would not let them go to school, she would call school saying they were sick until the abusive scars went away. In therapy she admitted to seeing her mom beat her little brother until he was bloody and she wanted to kill her mom. Going over her parents house i saw the mom and dad tell the kids to fight and beat each other up. Jamie her sister and Michael her brother were fighting and no one stopped them. Marys mom would lock the kids doors at night because so the dad would not go into the girls room and at one point had molested a foster kid. No one since today has researched what happened to that kid. The dad was never put in jail or arrested. He was a Guard in the Penn in Walla Walla. He got out of the situation. The Father Orville had sexual abused Mary while i was married to her. We were living in the basement and he went down to the basement and decide to sexually feel on my wifes legs. I told Mary's mom about it and Mary was distressed about the situation. I never grew up with abuse, so being in an abusive family is weird for me. Mary would be driving in the the car and the just hit me because she wanted attention, and i told her to stop. She would keep on hitting me until i hit her back. I did not want to hit here but there was no way i could get her to stop. I was thinking to myself this is not like me. I don't want to hurt her why is she keeps hurting me. I wanted to make the marriage work, So i went to marriage counseling with her. The marriage counselor said i was very passive and i need assertiveness training. Mary was aggressive. This Marriage counseling occurred in 2000. Counselor also told Mary that she need to stop hitting me. She keeps on telling me i deserve it. I would not hit here but when she gets angry thats the way she expressed anger. She did not want to go to therapy because she believe the therapy was swaying my way. After that therapy ended we she was still hitting me and throwing things at me. She one time through a dirty diaper at me because she said i deserve it. I was keeping so much inside until one day i was mad made so i though a bowl of salad at her. Some of the salad went on my son. After i through the salad she attacked me and scratched my arms. That Started a Situation that led to A restraining order on both sides. I have never felt this anger felling before so i went into therapy and through therapy i found that people don't make me angry and i need to control that. We got back together 4 month later. We filed for separation and If you Check Walla Walla district court you will find 2 restraining order. Daphne was Born when i was separated from my wife. So i never saw her born. I did not want to loose my family. I have been fighting to keep this marriage because i love my wife and want to be with my kids so i put up with abuse. Lets jump to a year ago. A year ago my life changed completely. Before i continue i should let you Know about Mary's sisters. Mary's sister Jamie is a drug addict. She was using drugs while she was pregnant with her child her child was taking away do to her abuse and drug use. She married a felon who has also a level 1 Sexual offender. Mary a year ago decide to let her sister come up and live with us. I said ok but i was hesitant. I did not like ...Expand for more