Laurie Myers:  

Life Became a RN worked as labor and delivery RN til 1997, became quite ill-had to quit work, got divorced(had six kids)Not in that order and now Iam "just" a mom full time and am enjoying life and remembering WHO I am and What I want out of life. Right now my kids need me to be a full time mother-that is more important than any amount of money i can earn as a RN. My passion is nursng and helping the less fortunate, the sick and the not so sick. I love to help people and am outgoing, never met a stranger and I speak my mind and don't mince words-If I have something to say--99% of the time i will say it. I am the GREAT communicator-and I especially love to speak to other people to find out how they tick and how they feel on many different issues in life and the world. I learned the hard way that if you loose WHO you are in your life&become something someone WANTS you to be--to make THEM happy--then really--come on--How happy can that make YOU?? Every person needs to evaluate every aspect of their life at least every three months and see what they can do to make their life better-no matter how painful it is--change is good if the ultimate outcome is your happiness. Just like the saying, "if mama ain't happy-ain't no one happy". In any relationship you must not EVER let anyone dictate how you act, how you feel or how you speak--and NEVER EVER let anyone control ANY aspect of your life. When you deal with anyone with control issues-you WILL lose sight of who you are what you are and ultimately--have NO life because it is not your life. Life is exactly that--it is YOUR life and there is no need to be someone your not just to keep the peace. Peace will come to those who seek it out and have the humility and kindhearted mind and soul to be the best person they can be. Taking ownership of all aspects of your life is so important. So many people have blameship and blame everyone for all the failures, screw ups and bad judgements. As a parent, unconditional love must be seen by our kids 24/7 and they can NOT feel they are being judged--criticized or told how "not normal" they are. Children need praise- stability and most of all they need not EVER fear they will be hung out to dry if they are dealing with issues and need guidence. They MUST understand that no matter what is going on they can come to me-their mother and we will work out the issues--NO MATTER what. Kids are so much smarter than anyone ever gives them credit. They obsorb EVERY aspect of our(their parents) actions--and they learn to handle aspects of their own life by the way we deal with issues. It can be a viscious cycle--if we as parents allow it. Kids MUST have our UNCONDITIONAL love--PERIOD!! They do not need to be told how bad they are--or told what they do wrong all the time. Don't get me wrong--they do need guidence on how to handle aspects of their lives--but if they fear they will be judged-criticized or even "dumped-or kicked out" of their home if they do mess up or do wrong. I am not saying that your kids can walk all over you--take advanatge of you--but they do need to know that a parent can be their friend as well as their parent. When parents try to control and dictate every aspect of their kids life and put FEAR into them--to the point they can't be themselves-that can create so many problems. Kids need to know that no matter what their parents say or do or PRETEND to be--that PARENTS ARE NOT PERFECT AND RAISING KIDS IS A LEARNING EXPERIENCE. If they feel one of their parents "pretends to be perfect" and seems to make everyone THINK how perfect their life is--sooner or later that will come back to bite ya in the booty!! Once again kids are smart--they seeall--they know all and they know what parents are "UP TO!!". They can see how parents can "pretend to be one thing--but yet they are really something else!!"--I guess this is all words of experience--I put up with so much-Now it is MY LIFE-for me&my kids. I am WHOLE again- Scho...Expand for more