Maury Lieberman:  

CLASS OF 1960
Houston, TX
New brunswick, NJ
Madison, WI

Maury's Story

Graduating from Stephen F. Austin High School in Houston was the beginning of a long journey for me which began at the University of Wisconsin in Madison. During my four undergraduate years at Wisconsin I encountered a world of ideas and experiences as well as a variety of people far beyond anything to which I had been exposed. The transfer from my Texas worlds of the East End and Denver Harbor sections of Houston to Madison, Wisconsin required some radical adjustments on my part, many of which were not easy.. At the most basic level, I left the warmth of the Houston winter for guaranteed below zero temperatures and snow storms. the novelty was wonderful at first during my first winter, but became old when it was still snowing in April. It was the 60's and Houston schools were still integrated. Wisconsin schools had never been segregated so the issue of race wasn't that big a deal. It was amazing how quickly and pleasant my adjustment was to this aspect of my new environment. Wisconsin at that time, along with Columbia University and the University of California at Berkley was one of the centers of student activism and politics. As one who was never political, being a part of all the excitement that was going on was thought provoking. On the other hand, I joined a fraternity and experienced the social life that had eluded me in high school. as you can see, i wanted the whole college experience. One football weekend when a group of us from my fraternity went down to see Wisconsin play the University of Illinois, I met a lovely young woman from Chicago named Elyse whom I married after I graduated from Wisconsin. My summers in Wisconsin were spent doing "real work" as a laborer for a construction company. Five summers of hard work put some real muscle on the gangly kid that had shown up at the construction site that first summer, Had I been in such shape in high school , i might have actually imagined going out for the football team! An additional dividend of this experience was the life experience wisdom I picked up from my work mates who had been and would be continuing to do this hard labor the rest of their lives. It brought home to me that useful learning can happen anywhere and from anyone if one is open to it. The world of student activism and politics at Wisconsin had made its impact on me. From Wisconsin, I next went to Rutgers University in New Brunswick, New Jersey where I spent two years getting a Masters of Social Work and being trained as a community organizer. For two and a half years , so much of my time was spent on the the streets of Newark, New Jersey, and New York City, trying to help people climb out of lives of poverty, crime, and delinquency. So many more new experiences :The first painful experience of seeing someone shot to death in front of me; Learning that to be poor doesn't automatically make one noble or good; growing to admire the resilience of the human spirit among people who have been harshly dealt with by the unfairness of life. Again, I learned a lot about life and acquired "street smarts' that helped me survive on the"mean streets" of the rough and dangerous urban environments in which I worked. Feeling the need for additional credentials, I left New York City and with my new wife Elyse, settled in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania where I got a Masters Degree in City Planning and International development at The University of Pittsburgh School of Public and International Affairs. At the end of the two years, my wife and I were accepted into the Peace Corps and were to be sent to Honduras. The Vietnam War was happening and my Houston draft board , instead, ordered me to have my pre-induction physical in preparation for reporting to Fort Jackson, South Carolina for basic training . The military works in strange ways and because of my academic training and experience, I ended up in Washington DC as a Naval Lieutenant in the US Public Health Service stationed for the next four years in Washington DC. During that four years, my own immaturity led to the breakup of my marriage with Elyse . While sad, the divorce was amicable enough to have allowed me to remain friends with Elyse over many years. After my military tour, I have stayed on in Washington having a rich career in government working in the fields of mental health and city planning.In 1978, I was able to take a sabbatical to lecture and do Doctoral work at Cornell University in Ithaca,New York. I've been lucky to meet and work with the "who's who" of my respective fields as well as of the political world of Washington and the US Congress. Work has taken me to every State in the United States as well as to a number of foreign countries traveling on a diplomatic passport for the US Government. That early taste of travel fueled a passion for travel that has continued until this day. As a sideline during my single years, i invested some expendable income to become part owner of a travel agency. Back in those days, the benefits of such ownership were substantial and subsidized my travel to many exotic and distant destinations At last count, I have traveled to 77 countries in the world. The experiences and friends I've made abroad have helped me understand how the larger world sees the United States as well as giving me an appreciation for the richness of of other cultures and other ways of l...Expand for more
iving. I now feel that I better understand why I am so proud to an American, but I also have a better feeling for how I might help make the US be a better world citizen. Along the way during my days in washington, I've survived a bout with bone cancer. At diagnosis, I was given two years to live. Submitting to an experimental treatment, I "won the lottery" and have beaten the original odds and am still here after twenty one years. The only visible sign of the malady is that I walk on a cane. After the break up of my marriage, I spent 17 years living the "singles life" I had wonderful relationships with many attractive , talented, warm and caring individuals . They were from all over the US as well as some who lived abroad in countries where I had traveled. But even what once seemed so attractive, eventually got old for me.Those years taught me that there are many wonderful people in this world with whom one might spend your life, and that timing ,fate and readiness are the real determinants that impact your choice. Sure enough , about twenty years ago, I met a Swedish diplomat stationed in Washington. We fell in love and I was sure" this was the one" After a year of seeing each other , we decided to get married. The only catch was that Elizabeth had some very strong reasons for wanting to live in Sweden and I had similar strong reasons about wanting to stay in the US . We could not resolve this dispute and broke up our marriage plans . In my subsequent period of sadness over this outcome, I ran into a woman at a professional meeting who I had similarly been running into over my many years in Washington. In my world, she was a very public figure, personally attractive and always seemingly being pursued by any number of men. I didn't know her well but it was always a puzzle to me why such an attractive and successful person was still single after so many years. In my disappointment at my latest failed relationship, I asked if she would be willing to listen to my story and give me a woman's perspective from her experience on why things had not worked for me. That first conversation was one of many that that woman("Leslie" is her name)and I had over a month. Behind her facade of Washington success was a story not too dissimilar from mine ; an early failed marriage, subsequent relationships with many attractive, and interesting men, but none of them enduring. Those first conversations grew from an initial curiosity to the warmth and love I have with Leslie after twenty wonderful years of marriage. How strange to both of us it was that we both wandered the world looking for a true significant other , but continued to encounter each other year after year without any sense that each other was "the one". We have ultimately come to the conclusion that timing is everything and that nothing had ever happened between us in all those years, because neither of us was ready for it to happen. For those of you who have read this far, I appreciate your endurance. Everyone of us has an interesting and unique story and I hope you have found mine somewhat interesting. I could go on and on with more detail about my life since i retired about nine years ago. I'll simply say that life in retirement has been active and pretty rewarding for me . There are always so many good things to do, new knowledge and new skills to acquire. I could never have predicted some of the directions my life has taken nor some of the things i've been able to accomplish. My professional advice and counsel is still frequently sought and it feels good to feel valued despite not being in the regular nine to five workplace. These days I find myself so busy that the traditional meaning of retirement doesn't seem to describe me very well. . A recent experience kind of sums up how i feel about my life. For the last year before the recent presidential election, Leslie and I had been very involved working for the election of Barack Obama. On the night he was elected, we were crossing one of the bridges coming back into Washington DC from having been working for Obama in rural Virginia. As the radio blared the news of his election win, we pulled off to the side of the road to savor the moment. The monuments of the District of Columbia lay before us glistening from a light rain , lit up in all their beauty by the lights of the city. Leslie and I talked about all our electioneering efforts of the past year,and how all our efforts now felt so rewarded. we then reflected on how many things had to happen in our respective lives to bring us together so that we could ultimately share what for us was this most historic moment. The roads taken and not taken as she took her journey from her childhood growing up in St. Louis while I wandered north from Houston. At that moment , for us, the city of Washington was the most beautiful place in the world to be. Between the historical moment and our wonder at how the two of us had found each other, that I survived fatal cancer, that a Black man could become the US President ,we could believe, if only for this one night, that everything is possible in this life for all of us. The immensity of all this good fortune and recognition of how wonderful life could be so overwhelmed us that all we could do was to just let our tears of joy flow and mingle with the drops of rain falling from the election night sky.
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