Pamela Howell:  

PROBABLY MORE THAN YOU WANT TO KNOW...a brief(!) outline of Pam's life Catching Up on Past History The End of High School Wells College Scholarship Daze Rutgers Honors Rutgers Failure ...or how even a bright, motivated person can be adversely affected by family problems. On My Own First Place 108 French Street, New Brunswick, NJ, 3rd Floor. (October 1985) No More Medical Job Stress (November 1985) Leaving the stresses at Roche Biomedical Labs was hard to do, but very beneficial. The Boyfriend Crisis The truth about Robert comes out Amazing Publishing Industry Success - at age 19 Working for 18 months at John Wiley & Sons publishers in their Customer Service Division was fun. Managing a group of 12, all of whom were older (and some even older than my Mother), was a challenge. Doing it well was a major ego booster. Falling for David How I fell for the man I married...(July 1986) The Medical Insurance Bill¿. or How to Get Married in less than 3 weeks He was a consultant, I was an employee. He paid for his own insurance, I had coverage. It seemed silly for him to continue paying out of pocket, so when we got that bill early in September 1987, we wondered what we were waiting for. No More Wanda & Doc How a simple misunderstanding and my paternal grandfather¿s (¿Doc¿) imminent Alzheimer¿s disease caused me to not be in touch with that part of my family for over 5 years. You Gotta Love What You Do Believing in myself (July 1988) How frustration with my service-oriented career and a knack for computers and writing led to the best decision of my life. Becoming a BUG Short for ¿Beginning UNIX Guru¿...the first week of my technical writing consulting career! The Training Year How I trained 5 of my closest friends (from varied walks of life) to be technical writers. Getting Screwed by Ma Bell Or how we paid 6 people for 9 months on David's salary while AT&T waited to pay us. (September 1990) Homes Sweet Homes Don't buy 4 houses. Ever. Unless you really can afford all of them. Underneath it all¿ On paper and to the outside world, we were doing great. David was somewhat possessive, and jealous of my time with friends. But the 4 houses, cars, and lifestyle seemed wonderful to most onlookers. It was, in ways. In other ways, it just kept getting worse. David would always drink heavily, every night and every weekend. Then he started drinking in the mornings (after Chuck Godshall, our real estate ¿angel¿ who was clearly a replacement father figure to David, screwed us out of $25K and refused to provide all sorts of other assistance he'd promised.) The Beginning of The End Scott, Harris When It's Time to Change, You've Got to Rearrange¿your priorities (May 1992) It got really bad. David would drink constantly, arriving late to work. The hitting started (twice), and I tried to leave. Then we worked in different places and I didn't know how much he was drinking in the morning. It all came apart when he was arrested for drunk driving and refused to get help. Refused, kept drinking, checked himself out of the rehab his mother and I put him in, got himself kicked out of another one (long after I kicked him out of my apartment). He got a bit better, and then would go right back to drinking. Personal Ad Madness (November 1992) I don't wanna be alone any more¿sitting at Karen and Jeff's on a rainy Sunday afternoon, hugging a teddy bear while watching movies as they cuddle on their couch. Reading all the Village Voice ads and the tri-color marking scheme (3 lists) The Wacky 4 * Tom the Security Manager at Liberty Science Center (a list) * Mark the Comic from Avenue U in Brooklyn (b list) * John the Impulsive (a list) * The Lying Jerk (b list) The Yale Comp-Sci Hermit¿or 6 Days of Bliss and The Tragedy of a Lifetime (a list) * The Trip to New Haven (November 24, 1992) * Meeting Richard Morris * The Seduction * The Wonderful Geeky Movie Time * Shopping at Kmart * Thanksgiving of Beef Lentil Stew * Separation Anxiety causes us to stay together¿twice * The Kiss-Off * The Evil Response * The Baggage Problem * My Only Option He Who Toils Below Ground yet Captivates Me¿Entirely (c list¿but the real winner!) * The 6 Hour Phone Call (November 22, 1992) * The 48 Hour+ First Date (bring your toothbrush) (November 30, 1992!) * Meeting at Penn Station * The Fateful Cab Ride * Rotelle A.G. * The Long Train Home * The Tearful Evening * Feeling Human and Special Again * My Hero * The Passing Out Episode * Mr. Heimlich Was Right * The Unbearable Truth * Marvin the Martian * The Commuting * The Ice Storm * Dog Years * The Decision More Recently¿ A Bizarre Tale of Three Cities (February ¿ May 1993) Princeton, Philadelphia and New York ¿ the corridor The Dream of a Lifetime ¿ Moving to NYC! White Collar Criminal Don't trust anyone even remotely like this guy, until after he gets help for his problems. Buying Into the Corporate Myth A brief stint as an employee (!) of Citibank. May-August 1993. Screwed by the IRS, or Selling Out How the IRS came after my salary based on taxes my husband owed. Did they really think that anyone, anywhere could live on $400/month? Retail Excursion Computer temping for Federated Department Stores. Where You Can Smell the Money i...Expand for more