Sandra Carter:
CLASS OF 1980
Shell Lake High SchoolClass of 1980
Shell lake, WI
Cambridge Community CollegeClass of 2001
Cambridge, MN
Sandra's Story
Life
My Spouse:
My husband and I will have 32 yrs. Of marriage on April 2nd 2020. We quit smoking together on our Anniversary going on 3yrs. ago. I met him while attending a class for Trained Medication Techs. His sister and I attended the classes together and he came to see her at the dorms where she shared a room with me. He asked me out but I was a bit of a snob, and refused to go out with him. His sister moved back to her Mom's and didn't drive. I had called her one day and asked her to come to the dorms and help me with a biology problem. She told me that she couldn't come over unless her brother drove her, she also added that I had to go out on one date with him if I were going to get her help. Needing all the help I could get with the biology, I agreed to her terms. So he brought her over and asked when we could go out on the date, I told him we could go out to the park the next day. I wasn't at all thrilled with the idea of dating him so I chose the park because it was close to the dorms. We went out and talked about everything. We became great friends. I had already had a boyfriend at the time and I told him all about it. We became best friends and I found I could tell him more things than my boyfriend I had been dating for a year. So we became friend first, but I fell in love with the guy and he has been my husband every since. We have had a lot of problems off and on but he is worth some of the trouble. It is our second time around with a marriage for both of us, and we did join two families together, but it has been worth it. We have a yours, mine and ours, family. Five boys, two girls. I had three, he had two and we had two together. Believe it or not, we are a very loving and happy family. We had some issues with addictions, but fortunately we both found recovery programs that helped us to come back together and now we are happy Grandparents. I also am a Foster Grandparent for our local school. I love it. I do have Fibromyalgia, and some days my life has moments I have no power over, pain, and people, so I have to let go and Give it all up to a Power of energy greater than myself. It truly helps. I have come to understand as a child I had a spectrum disorder and it explained a lot regarding my anxiety and learning disability. I know Part of why I fell in love with my second husband, besides his patience, and understanding heart, was he too, went through a physical disability and he also had difficulty with learning in school. I was fortunate to find someone so loving and compatible to my life and my heart. We are a very simple, but happy couple. We live One Day At A Time and we attempt not to judge others in our lives. We are far from perfect, but we also know if we can not, or will not find a common denominator between others, we all must go our separate ways. We believe in Live and Let Live. Life isn't so bad if we live ...Expand for more
life on life's terms. Time just slips by so quickly.
I have no pets. I am allergic to all fury creatures. It is what it is. The irony, most animals love me.
My Kids:
I had three children from my first marriage in Texas. I had two daughters and one son. My oldest is living back up to here in MN. She has two sons. My other daughter lives in N.D. and has two daughters of her own. I enjoy being a GrandMother now because I see my Grandchildren often. My youngest son, from my first marriage, has two sons, and his girlfriend has two kids, they are expecting another this upcoming spring. I have two sons with my second husband. They are both married and the older one has one son with his beautiful wife. Our youngest has three children, but one was adopted out due to circumstances above and beyond his power. But he and his wife have a wonderful little boy and they presently live in ND. I also have two Step-Sons. My oldest Step-son is living in IA. and had 4 children, 1 stepdaughter, a son, and two younger daughters. My other step-son lives in St. Cloud and has a set of twins sons, 15, and a 12 yr. old daughter. We have had all of our children living with us at the same time when they were younger. Seven can be a hand full. So it can be nice having them out living their lives. Children are the blessings that can remind us of how awful we were as children ourselves. I wouldn't trade any of mine for the world, because they are also my gift from a wonderful creator who also had a great sense of humor in my life. We have had our trial and errors with all of them. Some we have had to let go and let grow, but we still hold them close to our hearts and pray their lives improve as they age in life as we did. We also know we can love them, but they must also learn to love themselves. Our children are now the adults we all become, and some may take longer roads to get there. We have some that fight their own demons, and their Dad and I know we got to let them go and let them grow. We are always here, and we are here for all our grandchildren, but we don't allow them to step on us like door mats. Love is unconditional, yet people will often attempt to control others with love. We have tried hard to tell our family there are compromises in a marriage and in life, but never compromise your principles for anyone. We have attempted to do our best as Parents, GrandParents, and as a husband/wife team to each other. We may not have been perfect, but we have gained a lot of ground with love. Gentle Hugs to my old classmates and some of the first children in my world. I know now, how difficult it may have been to have a child such as myself in a classroom, but I also know, we all have come a long ways in this world. Bless you all, and your families as well. Just a thought from this now Ol'MeMa/Grandmama. Sincerely, Sandra L. Carter/Kram 01-12-2020. #Redeyed48.
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