Terry Frazier:
CLASS OF 1982
Southern Guilford High SchoolClass of 1982
Greensboro, NC
Allen Jay High SchoolClass of 1979
High point, NC
Terry's Story
I remember as a teen watching straight porn & how it turned me on & I would go to topless bars when I was 18 but in the back of my mind I was always curious so I started watching bisexual porn & to me that was even more fascinating than the straight porn. I would tell myself "I'm not gay" because I always heard people including family & friends talk about homosexuality in a negative context.
So I tried to suppress my feelings but at the same time I was experimenting sexually with guys. At this time in my life, I was living with my male cousins & knew they wouldn't understand so I remained closeted. But at the same time, it was eating me up inside. One day, I just couldn't take it any more so I drove to my parents house & when I got there, I was crying. My parents looked at me & said "What's wrong?" I said "I'm gay." & my father replied, "So what?" & my mother just sat there very quietly & I knew she was disappointed.
My father told me he didn't care if I was gay or not & that he still loved me. My mother told me that this wasn't the life she would have chose for me & said that it would be a very hard life. My mother is a very r...Expand for more
eligious person, so I know she had a hard time with it but she also loves me very much. I told them not to tell anyone else in the family. Some time after that, my brother kept asking me questions about my personal life because I told him I was going out to nightclubs but didn't tell him that they were gay nightclubs.
When he would ask me questions about going out, I was very vague with him so that he wouldn't suspect my true sexual orientation. He finally told me, "Let's go to the park, just me & you" & I replied, "Ummm, ok". We sat down on the picnic table & he basically told me that he would love me no matter what & asked me if I was gay & I said yeah. I was really surprised how accepting he was of my "lifestyle". I've expressed an interest in telling the rest of the family....aunts, uncles, cousins,...to my brother but said that I was afraid in telling them! I was afraid what they would think of me if they knew I was gay. He told me "Who cares what they think." I think I'm afraid to tell them because some of them are very religious & might not accept me for who I am. I came out to my parents that tearful day at the age of 24.
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