Dave Windley:  

CLASS OF 1976
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Ellicott city, MD
Catonsville, MD
Ellicott city, MD
Ellicott city, MD
Ellicott city, MD

Dave's Story

Many moons ago I was honored with a fluorescent orange webbed belt to be worn across my chest and around my waist as a "safety" at St. John's Elementary, That pride was quickly overcome by pain and humiliation when Jeff knocked the wind out of me and bloodied my nose he said I was such a sissy. Ironically that same year I was accused and expelled for hitting a girl. You see Nancy felt I was playing hard to get and decided to swing her purse directly at my face. I naturally threw up my arms to deflect the impact but she said I hit her and no one would believe the truth. New zoning regulations transferred me to Northfield Elementary for fifth grade. It was one of the first "Open Space" schools, and I became school champion of the automated spelling machines that played a spoken word and matching sentence from a strip of magnetic recording tape on 80 column computer punch cards. Mrs. Mergehenn's music class polished my vocal skills and Mr. Frank Lyman taught me how to play rhythm guitar so well that he was able to book our little folk music group to perform Puff the Magic Dragon and Snoopy vs the Red Baron from a small pier on the edge of Lake Kittamaqundi to celebrate the 1st Anniversary of Columbia, MD. I believe Melissa did lead vocals and tambourine, Brian played drums and Steve was on lead guitar. I just learned that Columbia celebrates it's 50th anniversary this year! Patapsco Middle was my next open-space educational experience. Fellow gym students rewarded my inept performance by "de-pantsing" me on the baseball diamond. Ms. Brewster told me my vocal range from male Tenor to female Soprano II was rare and must be celebrated by joining the school's chorus. She worked with me during and after school, preserving my range as my voice changed. At our holiday concert, I was in the limelight, standing beside her piano, with the chorus standing on risers behind me. Stage fright stole my voice at first, but she tickled the 88s softly and whispered words of inspiration which restored my voice and earned a standing ovation! Last but not least was my favorite chemistry teacher who honored me with a special Lab Aide Award for setting up experiments for classes, I was so sad to learn she died a few years after I graduated. Mt. Hebron was a mix of emotions for me. Mr. Melvin Greasley taught me to use even more tools than my Dad had at home and emphasized that patience with woodworking projects would reward me with beautiful pieces, some of which I still have and use today! Mr. "Chuck" Lechters taught me to machine tools on the lathe, cast things in the foundry. electroplate metals, and both gas and electric welding which I used to make the coolest and most luxurious customized go-kart as a special school project. I'll never forget the day Mr. Greasley promoted chose me and Tony as my assistant to make sure all remained safe in wood shop class so he could attend a special conference. Football star Tank was too impatient to follow the rules and wait for my help and cut off the end of his thumb while trying to rip a 1/2" piece of wood with the 18" table saw. He almost passed out and all other students avoided that saw for a long time thinking it was somehow jinxed. I don't know which was worse, getting him to the school nurse so he could get to the hospital, OR retrieving his sliced thumb from within the saw, wrapping it in a wet paper towel and keeping it on ice so it could be stitched back on! DJ Dave Wolf willed his classic rock radio spot and trademark "HULLOW" to me in the WMTH studio in the Library, while Mr. Neil Wolfe made me the best A/V technical student aide and photographer. I learned volumes from Mr. Heaps' Social Studies special outreach program where I taught Photography & Guitar to G/T 8th graders at Dunloggin Middle. My mentor was the now legendary Mr. Myron "Moe" Dutterer who moved south and is now very much alive and kicking as he enjoys his retirement from theater and music. I remember Ms. Ruth Hutchinson was recognized as the first woman in some important political or government role and one day said "proms are one of life's critical milestones". At the time, HC School Board rules only allowed tickets to be sold for Male/Female couples. Class Advisor Ms. Elanor Gnizak confirmed with "J.R" McCrumb that no exceptions could be made, She just couldn't get that "just inviting any girl to Prom" would imply far more than I could possibly do. One day before the deadline to buy tickets, I convinced her that based on Ms. Hutchinson's recommendation, I MUST attend the prom so she reluctantly agreed to replace one of three Segall Majestic photographers with me for the event, I'm proud to say one-third of the Prom photos in our yearbook were taken by me, myself and I! MANY years later I thought I heard Bea Arthur's voice coming from a CCC ESL classroom next to where I was fixing a computer.. I peered into the open door and realized it was Ms. Gnizak!. As her class filed out, I approached and identified myself. She she remembered the Class of '76 but not my name. I wal...Expand for more
ked her to her car and tried my best to explain how she allowed me to experience that milestone and recognize that with allies like her, I could possibly survive as the only gay kid in a world filled with no compassion or acceptance from family, church or society at large. I truly don't think she understood how much she did for me, but at least I gave it my best shot. I worked as an Audio Specialist at Memco until classmate Dave Councell landed me a job based with DDI, a company he sold products for in Silver Spring, I traveled the East Coast repairing mainframe computer peripherals as Field Service Engineer. After a few years, Digital Equipment bought DDI with no offer of keeping my job. I joined Westinghouse and worked my way from GS-7 to 13 in 4 short years, then hit a glass ceiling because I had no formal electronics training. Close co-worker John "did me a favor" by outing me to everyone. I had top-secret clearance and since being gay was considered a threat to national security I had two choices at that time, go to federal prison for NOT being out and proud on my clearance application OR turn in my badge, lose my clearance, and be escorted off the premises. I gave up all my assets and returned to college hoping to find a decent career. Success began in Professor Hugh Lenzer's Public Speech class. Mike, Lenny, and the other d/Deaf students of CCC convinced me that good interpreters, especially males, were rare, and I needed to become one. I worked on campus as a Data Comm Tech to pay for my degree and was chosen 1 of 6 from 250 nationwide applicants to represent their college at a week long "HIV/AIDS and Interpreting" conference. I became the nation's first "Supplemental Instructor" for interpreting classes, and was doing great until a co-worker sabotaged my part of a CAD/CAM lab whose success meant $2 million in grant money. Overnight that guy's covert actions nullified 7 written commendations and I was fired before he admitted his motive was hatred for Gay people like me! HR/EEO rep Dr. Judy Snyder said Baltimore County had no legal protection against this hate crime, but CCC is self-governing and would definitely support me. President Walsh sent Dean Ashby to personally apologize from administration for being hastily fired. Before long I was hired by Media Services, who considered my background and being fired gave me an advantage over other candidates because I could become a staff ally for students facing similar discrimination. After earning my degree in Sign Language Interpreting I joined Birnbaum Interpreting Services and earned national certification. Five years later, the CEO offered me a BIG cash incentive to found a Video Relay service with two new recruits, one of the most challenging and highest paid interpreting positions. My role remained for eight years until the division had to be sold, returning me to community interpreting. In 1990, I bought a fixer-upper ranch home in Windsor Mill and juggled time between home improvement, tinkering on my car and motorcycle and having fun sharing life's experiences with Carson, the youngest of three boys I helped raise. He is engaged to a beautiful woman with her son and daughter from a former relationship. We recently celebrated the third birthday of Conway, a son of their own. Carson frequently calls and texts to discuss situations that remind me how important life is. Over the years of homophobia, hate and discrimination, I wished that within my lifetime GLBT people like me could be recognized not as perverts, sex offenders or child molesters but respected as simply different. I grinned ear to ear when I read the Washington Post article that President Clinton added "sexual orientation" to the federal anti-discrimination clause. He continued to open eyes and minds by facing a coup from the "good ol' boys" by eliminating the ban on gays in the military. When President Obama expanded the anti-discrimination clause to include federal government contractors like me, and empowered the Supreme Court to mandate marriage equality I thought maybe my dream could become reality.. "Mr T" and radically religious "Sidekick P" eliminated virtually all executive orders and laws ensuring GLBT people like me could live without fear of discrimination at home, work or when trying to obtain public services. I was really scared when they promised to eliminate gay marriage and the ADA which provided solid job security for interpreters and the people I serve with disabilities.. Luckily they did not succeed with those promises, but COVID forced the shut down of government and private sector offices which caused me to lose my job and insurance. After being denied food stamps, energy assistance and unemployment due to my retirement savings, I landed a part time job with Apple Computer who cherish diversity and actively support minorities including GLBT folks like me. Once i pass my probationary period I hope to become full time so I can enjoy an amazing package of benefits that will carry me through retirement. THANKS for reading!
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