Robyn Gunderson:
CLASS OF 1989
J.J. Pearce High SchoolClass of 1989
Richardson, TX
Westwood Junior High SchoolClass of 1986
Dallas, TX
Richardson Junior High SchoolClass of 1986
Richardson, TX
Richardson-North Junior High SchoolClass of 1986
Richardson, TX
James Bowie Elementary SchoolClass of 1984
Dallas, TX
Robyn's Story
Life
Posted Jan. 8, 2007
My beautiful husband you are missed more than you can possibly imagine. I will forever be yours. I will talk to you in my thoughts and see you in my dreams. I will never experience a love like this again and I am blessed to have been your wife and the mother of your amazing children. I look forward to the day I meet you in the sky. I hope we made you happy these past 11 years. I love you Robbie. Forgive me for not being as understanding as I should have been. You are in my thoughts always and I see you daily in the eyes of your children. I hope I can teach Jude, Allyson and Laura the love, patience and calming spirit that you have shown all that love you. Please know how very dear you are to me and that I know how lucky I am to have had you in my life even if it was just for a short while. Thank you for the gift that you have given me to raise. I will do the best that I possibly can and I will remind them daily of the love you had for them. Love, Robyn
School
Posted March 15, 2007
How is it that the littlest encounters we have in live affect our future in such a profound way? I remember the first moment I saw Rob. He walked into The Basement and a girl who I barely knew (definitely not a stranger now) walked over to ask him a question and the rest is history. I thought he was so beautiful the first minute I saw him, then I saw the wedding ring on his finger and thought to myself "What a lucky woman his wife was?"
How did my brother, my friend turn into the father of my children and husband. I always thought of Rob in a brotherly way. At what point did it turn into the rest of my life? If I wouldn't have met him that night how would my life have turned out? Would I have these 3 beautiful children? Would I be more career driven?
Things in life that you think you don't want turn out to be the very thing that you can't live without. Rob saved my life in so many ways. How blessed I am to have know him, loved him, and love him still.
I leave for Ft. Dodge, Iowa tomorrow to take the children to see the Gunderson Family, my family, and to see Rob's grave. Not sure if I will know what to say or how it will affect me to even drive down that cemetary road. All I know is that this may be the first time but it won't be the last and I hope that it doesn't get harder and more sad each time. I used to tell Rob that I wish I would have never walked through The Basement doors and his response, as it was always, was "Robyn, I would have met you anyway because we were destined to be together forever!". And for once, my sweet husband you were right.
I love you and will see you soon.
Robyn
College
Posted March 23, 2007
My children were too heartbroken to go to the cemetary with me. My oldest is having a hard time dealing with Rob's death let alone talking about it. The one thing that actually brought her comfort was that the set of charms I have that say "I love" "Rob" "Always" is now buried with her Daddy. The mudd was still fresh so I pressed the heart shaped charms into the grave and covered them up telling Robbie that one was for Laura, one for Allyson and one for Jude. The last part of the charm is a key with a heart shaped loop that we kept. Laura was so comforted that I did that and now we share the key together to keep. She never discusses what happened but she wanted to make sure I did that. How she hurts and all I can do is pray to God to help her. I hope that I will know the right answers to give her when she finally does open up and that she knows that I do is for her and Allyson and Jude. I would hate to know that I didn't honor her Dad enough by looking for answers or that she resented me for not doing all possible to memorialize him. Maybe I don't have all the answers and I am sure I will make plenty of mistakes. Hopefully the signs in life will put me at eaze and let me know that no matter what I am exactly where I need to be and not to hurry to get out of the sadness, grief, happiness etc. Whatever I am feeling is exactly what I need to feel before I can move past this tragedy that defines my life at the moment. We love you Robbie, Daddy! There is no other man in our life that has affected us like you and you are forever my husband, my friend, father to my children. Nothing and no one can ever take that away from me and no one but I knows how we felt about each other. Through the chaos, good times, everything you are forever my best friend.
Love you,
Robyn
Workplace
How many signs are there in life that you don't get until it is too late? The little things you miss. So hard to explain. There are just so many. So some have already inquired as to what the meaning is behind certain things that I post (quotes, videos etc). Trust me, there is meaning behind every single thing I put on myspace. Now I have the icon that is next to my name that says "Keep me safe while I sleep". That has a meaning to me and Rob and if he were here he would understand. To the rest I guess I will have to explain. Before Rob and I even knew how we felt about each other we were pretty good friends. Yes, guys and girls can be FRIENDS! Anyway, I had a pretty traumatic event, I was mugged by two shady characters. Well for a very long time I was terrified to go to sleep or to sleep alone since these gentlemen had my drivers license. Well Rob and his beautiful wife Pam weren't getting along at the time and so of course, "Go ask Robyn, she won't say no". I had the revolving couch or home for whomever needed a place at the time to stay. Rob stayed at my apartment with me and my roomate for two weeks. I told Rob he could stay in my room if he wanted because I was sleeping on the couch. For some reason it seemed safer to me to be on the downstairs couch instead of my room upstairs with a private entrance. Don't ask me why, I was 20 and scared. Well Rob ended up sleeping with me on my couch and just watchin me go to sleep. No he did not hit on me, and yes a couple of times I wish he would have but I never wanted to interfere in his marriage. I did wonder sometimes why he didn't hit on me. He is the only man who I have eve...Expand for more
r slept with, in his arms, that didn't hit on me. I actually thought there was something wrong with me because he didn't. I remember going to the Basement after a long talk with one of my friends, they were telling me to admit that I must be sleeping with Rob. No we weren't. Well I saw Rob at the bar that night and I told him what was being said about us and we both laughed. He and I thought that was ridiculous and we decided to do a gold schlauger shot together to laugh the thing off. Well he always watched over me when I was too scared to go to sleep and he never took advantage. What kind of man does that? He was very much the rocker but very much a gentleman in every way.
Once we had a silly argument, which married couples love to do, and I told him that I wish I would have never stepped foot in the Basement. His response was "I would have found you anyway Robyn, because we were destined to be together". I would just laugh it off. Well this past year for Father's Day, we would go on our annual trip to New Orleans to see my Dad. For some reason I never had been to the cemetary where my grandmother on my Dad's side was buried. So Rob and I stepped out to find "MaMa Effie's" grave. When we found it we stopped at the corner street and both had a "Deer caught in the headlights" look on our face and we both knew the sign. He grabbed my hand and said "Destiny". I said, "If this is not a sign then I don't know what is". My beloved grandmother was buried on the corner of Effie Street and Judith Street. My grandmother's name and his mother's name. How strange is that? I always told MaMa Effie that I would marry a cajun man and Rob lived up to that in every way. We had previous signs as well the year before when our son was born. The week before his mother passed away in 2002 she kept telling us how we should have more child. How the 3rd would keep me young like her beautiful son Erik did for her. She was so thankful to have Erik later in life because he kept life going, kept life interesting and kept her and Bob on their toes. Well she passed away that Thanksgiving Day and I made a huge meal, people were asking me why I was doing that. It was because Judy asked me to and I didn't want them to look back on Thanksgiving as a bad day. Well we buried her on Decembe
Military
12 years ago today my life was forever changed. The things in life I thought I so desperately wanted turned out to be the things I so desperately am thankful that I got away from. After what I thought was a heartbreaking event, Rob took my crying face in his hands and said "Why won't you let me love you?" To some of you it might look like he was my last resort but to Rob and I he was my only option. He saved my life, my heart, my soul. Was life perfect with us, no way. The only time we had together alone was the 5 months and 1 day after he saved me. Then God had other plans, I got pregnant my wedding night and for those of you who know me, thank you for putting up with my horrific pregnancies. For those of you who don't be glad you didn't have to be around me. I was sick morning, noon and night for 9 months of every pregnancy. Rob even had to drive me to work as I had my face in a paper sack getting sick all the way to work. He had to put up with motion sickness, guys you know what I mean. When your new bride can't even get through the "Wifely Duties" a new husband needs because she is getting ill the whole time due to motion sickness, a man usually is not so understanding. Rob understood, dealth with, supported me...EVERYTHING! No relationship is perfect when you go from Rocker Couple to New Parents all in 1 year. I was mad he didn't change as quickly as I did and he was mad that I changed so quick. Couldn't be that Rocker Wife with a baby on the way as sick as I was. We dealt with it the best we could. 9 months came Laura, then 9 months later we found out Allyson was on the way. When Ally was old enough to be out of diapers we finally thought we could have some time together. Work got in the way, parenthood, band etc. Basically Life! Like I said no perfection there, but there was always love! Through the arguments, disagreements, birthday parties, anniversaries, busy work day or lazy day at home....there was always love in everything. Even our fights were not about pesky little things, after all he married a hot tempered cajun woman who is passionate about everything including arguing. Rob would just stay calm and say, "I learned from my first marriage not to say anything in haste or while mad, because you will regret it later". I would get mad and spout off "Why did you decide to learn something now?" I thought that if he didn't argue with me that I wasn't worth fighting for. Little did I know that the whole time he didn't want to loose something over stupid words. I appreciate the calmness he had, I miss it. Rob had the uncanny ability to calm our sweet son down. I would ask him many times after hours of trying to get him to sleep "How do you do that?" I would try for hours to get him to sleep and Rob would walk in from work at 4am and sing a few bars of "Sweet Dreams Baby" by Roy Orbison and have him out in 3 minutes flat. Rob's response, "Well honey, you work people up and I calm him down." Then he would giggle in that smart ass tone that he finally aquired after being married to me. Oh sweet Robbie, I miss that, I appreciate that, I love that. Who is going to calm me, the kids, the dogs down when I get them all worked up? God! That's all I have and if that is all I have then I will be ok. It is just hard letting someone else take over the job your husband was meant for. I am so very glad that you took a chance on a girl that wasn't worth much at the time and you saw through my sarcasim, my walls, my soul and loved the real me. In one of our many loving fights I would spout off "I wish I never stepped foot in The Basement" and you calmly looked at me, never to argue back and said "It wouldn't matter Robyn, I would have found you anyway because you were my destiny". I can only hope that my girls find a husband someday that loves them half as much as you loved me.
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