Kasia Harmata:  

eyond crucial. So crucial, in fact, that most of us start to hesitate, for fear of saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. But lately what I've begun to fear more than that is letting the moment pass without saying anything. But if you know how you feel and so clearly know what you need to say, I don't think you should wait. I think you should speak now." - Taylor Swift Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and arguments. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding.".