Dan Silverman:  

CLASS OF 1987
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Rome Free AcademyClass of 1987
Rome, NY
Syracuse, NY
Utica, NY

Dan's Story

Life Where do I begin?? I am currently married and my wife and I just celebrated our 2 year anniversary (6/3/02). We recently moved into a house we had built in Whitesboro. My wife is simply awesome and I feel very lucky to have her. Prior to meeting her I had dated women who were "Ms. Right now" instead of "Ms. Right" I believe that God had me experience some bad relationships so that when my wife arrived, I would know "she was the one". My wife - Judy, is the opposite of me - very calm, always cheerful, social and flexible. I often refer to her as my "Ritalin" as she has a calming effect on me. What attribute one of us lacks, the other has, which makes for a very complimentary relationship. How we met is a long story, but we refer to it as "besherit" - Hebrew for "fate". We were basically introduced to each other by a mutual friend who hoped we would connect, except neither of us knew this at the start. She will sometimes state that she married me because I was the only single Jewish guy around who was gainfully employed and free of observable illness :) She is quite sarcastic and has a good sense of humor, which were necessary characteristics for any woman I was to marry. Judy and I have a 19 month old son (2/1/03) named Nathaniel Barak Silverman. He is a healthy and very energetic toddler. He has changed my life in many ways and is an absolute joy. He attracts attention, especially when we go shopping with too many women wanting to pinch his cheeks :) We are expecting the birth of our baby girl within the first week of Jan 2005. I have ceased my workaholic behavior, so I am home for him and my wife. When he was born and I looked into his eyes, I quickly realized that there is more to life than work and selfish pursuits. I have accomplished many of my life goals, but my list is long and there are many more to go. I have had to work hard to get to where I am today - with a beautiful family, living comfortably and having multiple employment opportunities. Eventually, I hope to retire from NY state employment (only 20 years to go) and then work full-time in my private practice (counseling & therapy). Spirituality is a big part of our life and I continue to be the religious leader for Adas Israel Synagogue in Rome. This role in the community is demanding, but provides many intrinsic rewards. There have been many struggles along the way, but what doesn't kill me only makes me stronger! School Looking back at my school years, I realize just how introverted and anxious I was. Some perceived this as my being disinterested with others, when actually I was just not comfortable with myself and lacked confidence in social situations. I wasn't sure where I fit in and was cognizant of my social clumsiness, making me want to avoid social situations. When I mention this to my college students, especially those who struggle with shyness, they think I am lying to them because I am so different today. I think this is why I started working at age 16, which really helped me avoid doing anything at school like sports and dances. I had a few close friends, most who I have not seen since graduation and hope to see at the next reunion. I view my school years as "Thank God they are over!" College Well, I can strongly say that college helped shape who I am today. In 6 years of college, I changed from immature, shy and unassuming to professional, assertive and confident. I knew during my Sr. year at RFA that I didn't want to spend the rest of my life working at Chicago Market/Great American grocery store. I knew I'd have to make sacrifices during 6 demanding years of college, but the sacrifices were well worth it. My first 2 years at MVCC were all about fun and determining what I wanted to do as a profession. My grades weren't the best, but I learned more during this time than I did working on my Bachelor's in Psychology. Attaining a BA in Psychology from SUNY TECH - Utica/Rome was my worst experience, as I learned close to nothing. I should have known better attending a technical college for Psychology :) My best years in college were Graduate School at Syracuse University. I attended full time (2 years), worked full-time and interned 20 hours a week each semester. I learned how to work with people professionally in a clinical setting, but more importantly, learned how to multi-task. The ability to multi-task is a must for any Social Worker and parent, and has assisted in earning promotions and better employment opportunities. Earning my Master's in Social Work (M...Expand for more
SW) was one of the greatest accomplishments of my life. In the same year I graduated with my MSW, I also attained my (LCSW) licensure, needed to practice Social Work in NY and other states. In 1997 I earned my Academy of Certified Social Workers credential (ACSW) In 2000, I earned my R# credential, which permits me to be reimbursed by insurance companies for counseling & therapy in my private practice and is a must for marketability. I recently (12/04) earned my Certified- Advanced Children, Youth and Family Social Worker credential, which assists in my private practice. So, after my name is an alphabet soup - LCSW, C-ACYFSW, ACSW Workplace My first work experience was working for Chicago Market/Great American grocery store while in High School. I became a night manager quickly and although working for a grocery store was hell, it taught me that hard work leads to promotion and better jobs. My first professional job after graduate school was working for Catholic Charities, assessing prospective adoptive parents who were looking to adopt. This was a very frustrating and depressing job, watching children wait years to be adopted because of the beuracratic "red tape". I then went to work for the Neighborhood Center of Utica on The Children's Mobile Assessment Team in 1994. This job honed my social work skills as it involved working crisis with children & youth that were suicidal/homicidal and/or in severe psychiatric distress. I think I gained about 30lbs in my first year from the stress of this job. After 2 years of crisis work, I was promoted to supervisor of a therapeutic day care for children ages 3-8 who had been expelled from day care and school due to their behavior. This was my favorite job as I also provided intense therapy with these children and their dysfunctional parents. Watching the children be able to re-enter school and day care after some work and assisting their parents to change parenting for the better was very rewarding. I enjoyed this job for 2 years, but my success was noticed by administration and I was offered the Associate Directors position of the Neighborhood Center's Mental Health Division. As Associate Director, I learned much, but didn't enjoy the work and missed working directly with children and families. After 2 years, I decided I needed a change and took several state civil service exams. In April 2000, I was lucky enough to be offered state employment with DDSO in Rome as a Social Worker working with adults with mental retardation, living in the community. I enjoyed this job, but I prefer to work in mental health and wanted to get back to working with children/adults with mental illness. In 2001, I was able to transfer to the Mohawk Valley Psychiatric Center - Pinefield as a Social Worker II where I work presently. I am the Social Worker for the adolescent boys ward (13-17) and truly enjoy this job. I work with youth who have a myriad of problems such as depression, substance abuse, suicide attempts, past abuse, sexual perpetration and gang involvement. I have been teaching various psychology courses since 1996. I started adjunct teaching at Utica College, teaching Abnormal Psychology, Intro to Psychology and Counseling Techniques. In 1997, I began teaching at MVCC as an adjunct instructor, teaching Psychology and Human Services courses. The pay is lousy, but I really enjoy watching people grow intellectually, helping eradicate stereotypes and empowering students to "be all they can be". At present, I continue to teach at MVCC and look forward to teaching graduate courses at some point. I have had a private practice since 1995 in Rome. My expertise is family therapy and working with children, youth and adults with depression, anxiety and life changes. I also provide marital counseling, but don't enjoy this as much as most couples are emotionally divorced before they get to me :( I love my private work, as I am my own boss, set my own hours and can choose who I work with. Since the birth of my son, I have reduced the number of people I work with until he is older. Lastly, I continue to be the Religious Leader/Lay Rabbi for the Adas Israel Synagogue in Rome. I facilitate the weekly religious services, am Principal of the Sunday School and I teach a Sunday School class that prepares the children for Bar/Bat Mitzvah (similar to confirmation). I grew up in the synagogue and it's great to be able to give back some of what was given to me. So, if you've read all this, you can see that I am quite busy - which ultimately keeps me out of trouble :)
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