Debra Jay:  

CLASS OF 1972
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East High SchoolClass of 1972
Duluth, MN

Debra's Story

After all these years, Duluth is a magical place for me. I love sitting by the lake, the timelessness of it, and, with every visit, I'm reminded of how lucky I was to have grown up in such a place. I left Duluth in 1972 for Ohio. I attended The Ohio State University, graduating with a degree in psychology and a minor in photography. For many years afterward, my great love was the arts. Columbus was a great place to live, filled with creative people. The city was redefining itself through the arts, so the energy was dynamic and fun. It was a good place for being young. During those years, I began traveling to Europe. I lived in Paris one winter in a little hotel on the left bank owned by a flamboyant Algerian women, Renee, whom I'll never forget. She runs it still today. Young people from all over the world gathered in this particular hotel to live in Paris as long as their money would hold out. Many worked as buskers to afford their stay, and sometimes I'd assist by passing the hat and collecting francs. I'd sit in cafes and smoke and write (I've long since given up the smoking, but I'm still writing) and hoped that I could somehow blend in and experience life as a resident, not a tourist. One day a French couple struck up a conversation from the table next to mine, and quickly learning I was from the United States, said, "Why we assumed you were French." This began my love affair with Europe. It wasn't until the late 80s when I was struck with a passion for addiction and recovery. I wasn't addicted or alcoholic myself, but my close relationships with people who were introduced me to Al-Anon, a 12-step program for the friends and relatives of alcoholics. My love of the powerful simplicity of the program...Expand for more
led me back to my other interest, working in the therapeutic profession. After continuing my studies and specializing in addictions, I began working clinically for Hazelden's treatment center in West Palm Beach. That's when Jeff literally sailed into my life on his rather old Columbia 39. He arrived from Michigan after surviving a 7-day-gale at 150 miles offshore. He limped his boat into a marina, decided to stay awhile and was hired a few weeks later as a Hazelden therapist. He would show up to work in blue jeans, slightly wrinkled polo shirts, topsiders, with tousled curly brow hair, a quick laugh and an unassuming intelligence. It wasn't hard to notice him. Our first date was watching the sea turtles hatch on Singer Island, followed by a cup of black coffee in the cluttered saloon of his boat. We talked while the halyards clanged, the sea gulls cried and water splashed upside the hull. It was the perfect first date. We married a year later. Our life has not been disappointing. We share a love of working with addicts, combined with an inclination to take on new and daring enterprises. We share a desire to create a life of contribution. We both have an indescribable need to push ourselves beyond our circle of comfort. With this comes, not surprisingly, uncertainty and fear, but also a faith that you can do what you never thought you could. We now live in Jeff's hometown of Grosse Pointe, Michigan with 2 old dachshunds, a very youthful Yorkie and a cockatiel with the gift of gab. I write books and sometimes do television. I speak nationally and write a monthly newspaper column. I'm beginning a new book. We long ago gave up the sailboat, but have a weekender that keeps us motoring around Lake St. Clair.
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