Kelly Stark:
CLASS OF 1984
Grosse Pointe South High SchoolClass of 1984
Grosse pointe, MI
Michigan State University - CommunicationsClass of 1988
East lansing, MI
Pierce Middle SchoolClass of 1980
Grosse pointe, MI
Trombly Elementary SchoolClass of 1978
Grosse pointe, MI
Kelly's Story
Life
05/04/07: I'm in the process of getting divorced, finding a second job, and finding a place to sleep when I don't have my kids. The kids will stay in one place, while the parents switch in and out. Seems like my life fell apart overnight. I'm sure it will all work out for the best, but right now all I can see is all the work I have to do to get there.
We have two sons (17 and 5), one daughter (7), and two cats (10). My soon-to-be-ex husband is a respiratory therapist at UM Hospital in Ann Arbor, MI. I'm an account clerk with the City of Ann Arbor. Ms. Schmidt would be so proud ! During a recent reorganization (downsizing!), my title was changed to Administrative Support Specialist. Did you notice the initials? I'm a professional ASS! =o They PAY me to be one! So it should go without saying that I'm looking forward to a total career change someday...
Small world, though. I recently found out that my daughter's BFF's father went to 5th thru 10th grade with me! Funny how he got old and I didn't. ;^)
I played indoor soccer for a few years with my fellow "soccer moms" before my daughter was born. Then while I was off being pregnant, my team kind of fell apart due to injuries, personality conflicts, you know--menopausal complications. Back then, I was the "young" parent, now I'm the "not-as-young-as-the-other-parents" parent.
01/29/08: Still not divorced, but I'm dating and future ex has a serious girlfriend. We're both much happier and the kids seem to be doing well. After living with UofM students last summer (which SUCKED!) and being part-time homeless for a month (which almost SUCKED more!) I realized I'm better off having my own place!
I've met a ton of cool people from the internet (oh god I'm one of THOSE) - and learned that everyone has something amazing to offer. My new friends range in age from 20 to 60. I don't judge people on age (flavor, gender, physical characteristics, etc.) - it's not like they can change who they are. I won't date anyone younger than my son, but that may change as he gets older (he's 18 now). And yes I do know about the half-your-age-plus-seven rule for dating, but I just don't feel like that applies to moi.
I've experienced so many "firsts" since my separation I could write a book - but that'll have to wait till my children are grown. *grins* Suffice it to say there's more to sex than a two-minute race to orgasm (which I always lost).
03/05/08: Finally have a court date for THE DIVORCE. I am so getting hosed. But I'll be free of my emotionally (and sometimes physically) abusive, sel...Expand for more
f-centered, compulsive liar, alcoholic spouse. I really like his girlfriend, though, and can't stop wondering what she sees in him. When I realized I was still waiting for an apology from him for all the hurt - which I knew would never come - I forgave him. I'll never admit that to him, but then he's not the one I did it for. I feel more at peace with things now.
I have my own place which I lovingly call the media black hole. I have - are you sitting down? - no cable and no internet. Also have no microwave and given my cooking skills I've been reduced to eating couscous (you know, fluff with a fork) every day I'm there.
In the meantime I've been trying to find the pieces of me that I lost during my dysfunctional relationship. Part of that has involved surrounding myself with positive people who think highly of me, with the notable exception of my daughter's BFF's father. And I've actively cut the negative people out of my life, with the notable exception of my daughter's BFF's father.
I'm taking the approach that I embrace my past - the good and the bad - because like it or not it's part of me. And it's not like I can change it anyway. By accepting what is, I've found the motivation to move on.
04/03/08: Court date is 04/08/08. By this time next week I'll be officially divorced !! Yea!! Which is very good because I have a serious boyfriend in southern Illinois - we totally click on so many levels! He's 24. Did I mention I've developed an appetite for younger guys? They taste like chicken LOL. Oh, and I'm not a cougar. They find me!
06/30/08: We moved out of our shared home a month ago. We agreed that since his home (his mother's condo) has more room, the kids should sleep there during the week so they wake up in their own beds (I'm still in my one-bedroom). On the days he works I get there at 6am, get the kids up and going, then take them to daycamp, school, etc. But get this, ex won't give me a key. So every time we leave we have to make sure we have everything b/c there's no getting back in. Even though it's a pain I believe it's better for the kids so I do it. Every other weekend my kids camp out at my place.
10/16/08: Boyfriend issues... 600 miles is not conducive to a fulfilling relationship. I'm shopping closer to home.
Oh and btw, I got to pick a new name in the divorce so I chose "Stark." I'm a direct descendent of General John Stark who first said "Live free or die; death is not the worst of evils." (a drinking toast, btw) Having just gotten out of hell - I mean my marriage - I'm in total agreement with the old General.
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