Kurt Kaufman:  

CLASS OF 1982
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St. clair shores, MI

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I want to share my personal story with you. How will you accept your own mortality? My story begins in the year 2007, and these are some challenges that I faced. I did not feel well, and I went to the doctor for a physical. The doctor ordered a blood sample. Later in the week, he called me and replied that I was healthy. However, I did not feel that way as I was tired all of the time. The doctor said, “You do not have cancer as I did a blood test to screen you for it.” I took his advice as he was the doctor. He said, “The odds of you having cancer so young and not making the cancer antigen are too great.” I left his office wondering if I was wrong about not feeling well. I quickly resumed my normal life activities. In late March of 2007, I received a phone call from my wealthy friend Leonard. This was unusual as time had passed, our calls became more infrequent. We each had large families as I had four children, and he had five children. Leonard’s wife earns a very large salary in her financial advisement firm and Leonard made about $150-200k to her $1.5 million dollars a year salary. The phone conversation we had went like this – “Kurt my parents have moved back to Michigan, and can you fly to the Villages in Florida and pick their automobile up and drive it back to Michigan?” Then he said, “Kurt, it has been about 12 years since you have seen your father and wouldn’t you like to visit with him? “I replied,” That sounded great!” We could meet at a future time. I would pick up the airline ticket and money for gasoline for the return trip in the Toyota. We met at a restaurant named Boca-De Pepo’s, and we shared a fine meal as I picked up the airline ticket and gasoline money. Later in the evening as I was preparing for bed, I had to use the restroom and I had a severe case of diarrhea only it was not stool coming out, it was blood. I realized that I was very ill, but I had given my word to my friend. I weighed the options -- should I go on the trip or should I go to a hospital? I chose to pick up the automobile and visit with my father. The bleeding stopped while I was on the return trip home, I did not seek medical attention when I returned home from the trip to Florida. The next weird thing happened in April of that year and this event seemed so incredible. Most will not believe what I type next. I was lying in my bed getting ready for a shower and I heard a voice in my head. Let me, the writer, prepare you. I have never had an auditory hallucination in my life! That-day was weird as the voice said, “You are dying or you are going to die!” I am sure the voice said one or the other, but at that time I ignored the voice and did not seek medical attention. In retrospect I believe, without any doubt, that was Jesus or the Lord either was giving a warning or passing a judgment! I was too stupid to realize this at that time! Later in that year in the month of May 2007, I had two wild events happen. On May 16th I had another hemorrhage and I went to the University of Michigan Hospital in Ann Arbor. I had blood drawn and met with the ER doctor, and he said, “Well, you haven’t lost enough blood yet, so I scheduled you for an appointment in June for a colonoscopy.” I asked him to peer into the toilet in the ER and he declined my request! One week later on the 23rd of May, I was piddling time away at work and I hemorrhaged again and this time I took no chances. I grabbed the digital camera from work and took pictures of the blood in the toilet bowl. I then went to U of M again and showed these pictures to a different ER doctor and I was admitted around 8:00 pm that night. This event was the beginning of my personal look at the possibility of my early death. I was admitted to the hospital and where I was lavaged. That procedure is not a fun one! As a plastic tube is inserted through your nasal passage, you swallow the tube with a glass of water. Then a large syringe as big around as a fist sucks your stomach contents through the tube to examine if blood is present in your stomach. I had no blood in my stomach. I hemorrhaged and hemorrhaged throughout the night. I drank some awful stuff called Go-Lightly about a gallon o...Expand for more
f it and I had a CAT Scan at 3:30 am. I was worried about blood on the bathroom floor, and as the night progressed, I could not keep it clean and gave up trying. I had another CAT Scan at 6:00 am and was bleeding still. I was worried and I was thinking -- Was this the night that I will die! I had an emergency colonoscopy around 1:30 pm and was under no sedation as I was hemorrhaging still. I will never forget the next thing -- while undergoing the colonoscopy, the physician turned to the other physician and he said, “I just passed through a large suspected cancerous mass.” I exclaimed,”Oh my God! I have cancer and I am going to die!” The doctor turned to me and said,” I am sorry. Tough luck.” I asked him to burn it out and he said that he could not do that. Later that day of the 24th of May and after I was wheeled back to my room, I was still hemorrhaging. I was really getting nervous and a special “throne” was made to measure the blood loss. I even started lying to the nurses and doctors and I told them that I had stopped bleeding. The head of the gastrointestinal unit came by and mentioned it was probably cancer, and even if the biopsy came back negative, it would have to come out. I asked him a question about the bleeding and he explained that fiber ripped my tumor open and caused the massive hemorrhage and it was because it was a large tumor. I went back to work in early June only to find out that medical retirement at our company had ended June 1st of that year. I went on medical leave and as I was leaving, my supervisor wanted me to do some last minute work. I politely declined his request. I had many more CAT Scans, an MRI, and a PET Scan next. I had a procedure that staged how far the cancer had progressed, and I then met with the head oncologist at U of M and the head of the radiation department. I learned from the oncologist that I had a high- grade type of cancer. Not only is cancer staged, but it is also graded on cell types. The more abnormal looking the cells are, the higher the grade. The oncologist veiled this fact to me as I am sure he did not want to frighten me. High-grade cancers progress rapidly and will kill quicker than low- grade cancers if left untreated. The great benefit to high- grade cancers is that because the cells are so fragile, chemotherapy and radiation can kill the cells. I then had six rounds of chemotherapy with a three-drug cocktail, and I also underwent 28 days of external beam radiation therapy. I then had a six- week break and met with the surgeon and she was an excellent one. She had graduated from Harvard Medical School and done her internship at the Mayo Clinic. I learned that I had a nonresectable tumor and would have a permanent stoma and ostomy. I had a six- week rest and on 9/12/2007, I had surgery and lost the use of my rectum forever. I rested after surgery and had another six rounds of chemotherapy and I am still alive. In closing, I would like to mention this -- we like to think we are in control of our lives, but the control we have is limited. We all are going to die some day and some people will live longer than others; some will die because of illness and others in accidents. The main point is we all are mortal and all of us will die physically. I state that because we all face death, the best thing to focus on is your spiritual relationship with Jesus. I also want to say these are my beliefs and we all have a choice to accept Jesus as God or reject him. I am not good enough to get to heaven on my good deeds as; I am sinner like everyone else. Christianity works for me and I believe that we will all look at and bow before Jesus and declare that He is GOD in the flesh! “Yet you do not know what your life will be like tomorrow. You are just a vapor that appears for a little while and then vanishes away.” I was fired after I returned after my medical, and I then went back to MCC and Ferris State University and completed 84 credit hours in two years. I graduated with a BS in Automotive Management in August of 2012. I also lost the home that we were living in, I am trying to find a position where I can use my skill set. The photo above is my two oldest children Kris and Kim. I also have Phillip and Ashley as well not pictured. Kurt
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