Alan Stein:
CLASS OF 1977

Ward Melville High SchoolClass of 1977
East setauket, NY
SUNY Suffolk County Community CollegeClass of 1979
Selden, NY
Gelinas Junior High SchoolClass of 1974
Setauket, NY
Arrowhead Elementary SchoolClass of 1971
East setauket, NY
Flushing Manor Public School 184Class of 1971
Whitestone, NY
Alan's Story
How do I sum up my life since 1977, when there was no such thing as compact discs, the internet, cell phones, HDTV, MP3 players, Wii, etc? When Jimmy Carter was president and the "Republican Revolution" was just an unrealized nightmare that was still years away from being realized with the election of that old B-movie actor dude? When John Lennon was still alive and well (I still really miss his presence) and Madonna had not yet made a record? When marijuana filled the air at every rock concert and showing of "The Rocky Horror Picture Show? When WMHS constructed a "smoking shed" for the students' use (it's very hard to believe now) that was used as much to light-up joints as it was for cigarettes?
Well, I can't really and, as Stuart Smalley would say, "That's OK". It takes the pressure off just knowing that, given my high school "outsider" status, I won't be getting many visitors to my profile and hence I have almost the same degree of autonomy and freedom in writing this as someone does when writing a private journal entry.
After WMHS, I graduated from Suffolk County Community College with an A.A. in Nothing Useful, and then headed off to SUNY at Geneseo where I got my first taste of real freedom, which, of course, I enjoyed. At some point in my junior year, I got a little freaked out when I knew that the time was coming for me to declare a major, and I had not a clue as to what I wanted to do with my life.
I wound up visiting my sister in Baltimore in the summer of 1980 and I remain in the area still, although my sister returned to New York many years ago. I ditched Geneseo for the low-wage work world in Baltimore for a few years so as to "find myself". After a while, it dawned on me that I wasn't going to be one of those few fortunate people for whom a light bulb goes off in their head to tell them when they hit upon their life's purpose.
Instead, I pragmatically reviewed the courses that I had taken up to that point and, realizing that I had taken more sociology courses than anything else, enrolled in Towson University where I got a B.S. (a pretty accurate description, I might add) in Sociology in 1986. This was followed by a Masters in Social Work degree (MSW) in 1991.
Even before I went to Social Work school, I worked in human service related jobs for years and, all throughout my degree program, I worked in a local Department of Social Services branch doing Adult Protective Services work (if you know of a "vulnerable adult" who is being abused, neglected, or exploited, they are the folks that you call, at least in Maryland).
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a lot of SW settings over the years. For me, helping people in need is very gratifying to be sure, and being an advocate comes naturally to me. Years and years of dealing with heavy life circumstances, however, took their toll, and I had lots of "Sunday night blues" thinking about the work week ahead. This was no doubt exacerbated by the fact that I, like so many people, was raised in a "dysfunctional" family that was rife with dark, heavy emotions that were dredged back up to the surface by my work environment.
But the end of my Social Work years came ultimately because of a medical, rather than an emotional or psychological, reality. Over the years, I found myself becoming more and more physically and mentally fatigued which made it impossible for me to keep up with my work responsibilities. And, to make a very long story very short, was diagnosed with M.S. in early 2002. I left my last SW job, at Johns Hopkins Bayview, in September of 2003 and began receiving disability benefits shortly thereafter.
This is where my story remains at this time. But life's problems are all relative, to be sure. I am fully mobile and, although my memory and concentration have taken a hit, I am still able to think clearly and string sentences together (well, if anyone reads this, you'll be the judge of that) and remain hopeful for the future.
What gives me hope, you might ask? Well, I keep up with the research, from a medical layperson's perspective, of course, that is going on as regards to M.S. and a bunch of other conditions also, and there is a great deal of exciting and innovative research being conducted. Also, as a nation we are finally coming to the end of the seemingly endless years of despair known as the "Bush Error". And I believe that I see light at the end of the tunnel in the form of Barack Obama. And not a moment too soon.
And also, on a more personal level, I finally got married to a wonderful woman named Martha in 2005. I know this is a cliché, but she really has been by my side throughout many years of life's trials and tribulations, and for this and many other things I remain very grateful. We have been together since way back in 1982 and we waited until we felt that we really, really, knew each other well before "taking the plunge". One of the best ways to avoid divorce---I hope---is to be involved with your future spouse for more than 20 years. Anyway, it seems to be working out really well for us. Well, that's it for now. I hope that anyone who reads this has a life that is filled with laughter, joy, and good health. All the best to all of you.
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