Janet Staruch:  

In school I was a bit shy, somewhat quiet but not really depended mostly on the mood I was in. I really just kind of hid behind the scenes. Not the popular girl but not the nerd either. I always wanted to be a Medical Examiner when I grew up. My family and friends thought that was a Bad Idea. As it turns out, they were Wrong. I would have loved it and regret that I didn't pursue it. I basically blew off steam with Music, I loved to sing and dance alot. My parents were really strict so that was the only way to blow off any steam. The wildest thing I ever did in school? "Can't tell you or my mom still today would probably smack me into oblivion". Come to think of it, I was a little bit of a dare devil and that is so out of character for me now. By the time I was 19, I bought my first car and moved into my own apartment. I did financially well considering my age and supported myself. Boyfriends came and went but I took care of myself always and I am very proud of that. I lived in Secaucus at the time. There are so many people I would like to see from my past, just to know how they are and what are they are up to these days. I miss those who I shared a bond with and they know who they are. I miss you. I turned out to be a neat freak in my home, obsessed with cleaning but since my spinal surgery in 2007 I've had to relax about that. Cleaning the way I use to has proven to be a real difficult task, thankfully my husband helps alot around the house because he knows that it drives me nuts if the house gets too crazy. My biggest surprise in life is my daughter. I had always wanted to have children early on but I found myself not really liking the qualities I was seeing in the men I dated and marriage had to be first for me. So I decided to have fun and let whatever happens, happen. So many years went by before I decided to marry my husband whom I married in 2000. Most of my friends married long before that and had children already. By then we both were kind of set in our ways. We weren't sure we wanted to give up our lifestyle as we both knew coming from big families that a baby would change our life drastically so we waited some more. In 2003, I had the accident that affected my spine. It proved to be the most difficult circumstance I had ever had to deal with. I lost jobs because the pain was so debilitating that I could not do much walking and or sitting. Sitting was the absolute worst. I had to work because my income was a big part of our financial stability but everytime I tried to I ended up on disability because the pain was so severe. Anyway, I was now 38, doctors told me that I absolutely needed surgery which I was avoiding and this is when I decided that it was now or never to have a baby. My husband wanted a child too but was hesitant because he worried about what the pregancy would do to my spine. At this time I didn't care and I knew I wanted to have a baby before I decided to have surgery. It was a tough pregnancy but I don't regret it for one minute. There were times when I really wanted to die but when Olivia was born on March 24, 2005 and I saw her little face for the first time I couldn't believe the love that overcame me for her. I loved before in my life. I have always loved children, my friends kids and I love my nieces and nephews, my family, my friends, my husband but this was like no other love I had felt before. In an instant she changed my life, my way of being, my thoughts and I became a new person. I knew that if it came to it I would give my life for her. The pain in my spine was insignificant to What I needed to be for her and it became quickly apparent that I had to have t...Expand for more