Timothy Dudek:  

CLASS OF 1990
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Arlington heights, IL
Bloomingdale, IL
St. Isidore SchoolClass of 1986
Bloomingdale, IL
Sarasota, FL
Bloomingdale, IL

Timothy's Story

Well, it's about time I actually update this thing. *Chuckles* I was just browsing through all the places I have been ~ and what struck me wasn't so much the memories, but the people. We do a lot of growing throughout our lives, and what we eventually find to be most important aren't so much the things we do, but the people we share our journey through life with. And true enough, I was in such a hurry to distance myself from a not so pleasant childhood ~ that I not only allowed so many friendships to fade away, but what really stood out were the friendships that I never made an effort to form in the first place. One occasion which comes to mind was at the start of my second year of college. One of the incoming freshmen made the effort to approach me and introduce herself ~ it turns out that she was a junior at St. Viator High School the year I graduated. Being new, and knowing that a fellow alum was attending, she said hello. For whatever reason, it stands out vividly in my mind ~ now. At the time, I said hello, probably smiled, as she was attractive, but let it go at that..... My apologies, Kerry, should you ever read this. In hindsight, I should have invited her into my social network, and helped her make the transition to college life. A friendship that never got started, and all because I allowed myself to be oblivious to the opportunity to form what might have been a great friendship. It's the little things like that which stand out most ~ like the final day before graduation when Erika struck up a conversation. Someone I never really had the opportunity to know, she put forth the effort to make a connection before we all went our separate ways ~ and I never even thought to ask her to hang out, much less to stay in touch with her. Of course there's the mountain of friendships which I let lapse in my rush to grow up, and explore the world: from the girls whom I held my first crushes on, to the friends whom I left behind me. It's not even so much the names I come across, but even more so, the names which aren't there that really make me think..... and what a list of names..... Though I don't regret anything from my life, I do take pause and think about how much I've taken for granted through the years. How many friendships I missed out on; how many friendships I let slide, how many possible relationships I didn't afford the opportunity to even pursue whether or not there was any chemistry there. But mostly, I think about the people. Not about their personas, but who they were, and are, beyond their public image which we all created during that time in our lives. If I listed every person I thought about, I'd quickly use up the 18,000 characters which they allow us here, and still the list would be lacking. As much as I hide it ~ in as far as I've always been more of a listener than a speaker ~ I am and always have been a people perso...Expand for more
n. From the inane, almost meaningless banter ~ to the heart-to-heart conversations, I am always interested in hearing what others have to say or express. I think that is what bothers me the most, is how much I missed out on getting to know so many people better. How many people did I not allow to walk with me along this journey through life? It truly is about the people we share our lives with ~ more than anything else. In a world of billions of people, no matter how good you are at something, there will always be someone better. What we do, no matter how important it might seem at the moment we're doing it, is really inconsequential when we look back. What stands out aren't the activities, but who we shared them with. I can only say this ~ I'm open to getting reacquainted with any and everyone who has ever enjoyed my company, or at the least, thought they might. I don't care how obscure our pasts were, even if the only connection we had was walking through the same corridors at the same time. Male, female, other *chuckles* ~ just in case some have went a more unconventional route with their sexuality ~ are welcomed. I wrote the following back in 1991, and it's as applicable today as it was when I wrote it: To those of us who are coming of age; Understanding ourselves and who we are, Learning the wisdom of who we will become, And knowing who we already were, If at all we remember one thing: Let us remember to have faith in ourselves. As for me, I have been most fortunate. I don't know if some higher power has looked out for me through the years, or if it's been a case of blind luck, but I've had the opportunities to meet and work with so many wonderful people throughout my life. Perhaps my not having much direction in what I wanted to do was the cause ~ as it led me into the military, which allowed me to travel the world and get to know so many different people through the years. And that has been my one, true blessing. Not so much for the friendships which ensued, but for all that I've learned from such a variety of philosophies, understandings and beliefs. It's allowed my own understandings to mature and blossom. It's allowed me to realize just how fortunate I have been to have had so many friends and acquaintances. And though I'm still looking for that one best friend with whom to share the rest of my life with and start a family of my own; I'm much the wiser to realize just how special such a friend is, and I will value her that much more once I find her. *Smiles* In the meantime, I look forward to new friendships, and friendships reformed. Instead of distancing myself from my past, I am now hoping to amalgamate my past, present and future. To all those who pass here, and take the time to read this, I wish you only the best in your lives. Whoever you are, wherever you go, may your journey be a fulfilling one. Sincerely, Tim
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