Vincent Alfait:  

Life I had hoped to attend our 40th reunion this year. It would have been my first! I just found out my daughter's HS parents weekend conflicts, so now I am not sure I will make it to NJ (from CA). I would like to reconnect with you all so will try to with this post. You knew me as Vincent Onorato. The name change is a long story! When my wife, Holly, and I married in 1978, we decided to share a name, a middle name (Alfait) which is an acronym for a phrase which captured our relationship. We were a confirmed child-free couple for many years, but when our daughter was born in 1994, we changed Alfait to our last name so we would all share the same family name. I have had a great life for most of it and a great tragedy. My life seemed charmed for many years. In a nutshell, I met Holly right after college. She was a perfect compliment for me, all I could imagine or hope for in a life partner-- Holly helped me become much of what I am today. After college we travelled the US for three years in an old camper, stopping to work in therapeutic camping programs(Outward Bound model) for emotionally disturbed kids. Lots of adventure. Great experience. Holly and I married in 1978, pooled our money and went to Africa for a photo safari for our honeymoon, then straight to Hawaii where we lived for 23 years. I was fortunate to be awarded a US Public Health training grant to attend the University of Hawaii Ph.D program in Clinical Psychology which I received in 1981. I had a terrific practice with Holly (she had an M.A. in psych), taught in our Ph.D program in Clinical Psychology at UH Manoa, and did a fair amount of expert witness work since I specialized in head injured, physical and psychologic trauma patients. Life in Hawaii was as great as you might imagine. I felt marrying Holly was the best decision/luck I could make/have. We worked together, travelled together, played together. We were both marathon runners and avid ocean kayakers. I later became an Ironman triathlete and tri...Expand for more